Do you have ‘comparisonistis’?
Do you try to copy what skinny friends or family eat and still can’t lose weight or improve your health? If you’ve been following me for a while you may recall me using the term ‘bio-individuality’.
Bio-individuality™ refers to the fact that there is no one diet that works for everyone, so it’s really important to be able to let go of the idea that you can simply follow someone else’s protocol and it will work for you. It may work of course, but equally it may not.
Putting aside the fact that faddy ‘diets’ are not sustainable, it makes sense – think about the differences between two individuals, there’s the obvious such as age and height factors, but what about our ancestry, our living environments, our working environments, level of physical activity, medications etc,. There’s more, but my point is that we shouldn’t expect to all have the same results from a ‘diet’ when we’re all so different to start with.
The more clients I see and the more research I do, the more proof I’m getting of just how true this is. I’ve seen people who are super skinny, but eat a ton of sugary foods. They’re not healthy because the sugar is doing its damage, but they just don’t put on weight. I’ve seen super healthy eaters who are still overweight and have health conditions and I’ve seen vegetarians who eat worst of all.
It’s complex and the media doesn’t help by telling us we must eat this or drink that to guarantee we won’t get whatever it is they’re shouting about. They’re not wrong but what you must understand is that that approach will have worked for some but doesn’t guarantee it will work for you.
If you have a health condition or have had major surgery, the chances are there are some very specific foods that will be of benefit and some that will be having a negative impact, even though to an average person it would be super healthy. And eating those foods are likely to have led to a deterioration in the functioning of your digestive system and in your gut, so that will need to be addressed first. It can be a long process to get to optimal health and kickstart your weight loss, but it’s worth it.
Moving away from the plate, did you know things like not enough sleep or stress can also be a significant cause of weight gain or lack of weight loss?
Through research, trial and error, you can learn what YOUR body needs more specifically, what really nourishes it and gives you the energy and good health that you desire. There’s not a magic formula, you need to pay attention to yourself and build up knowledge. This is something that plays a key part in working with clients as a health coach, unravelling what those root causes may be so that we can work on treating them instead of trying to fix the problem with the next fad diet and crazy hours of exercise. That’s simply covering the problem, not fixing the cause.
Here’s something I taught my daughter some time ago as I want her to grow up loving her body and wanting to do the best by it.
Our body wants to keep on working, no matter how we treat it, no matter what abuse we throw its way, it keeps on going, doing the best it can with the resources it has. It deserves more, you deserve more. If you give your body what truly nourishes it, it can serve you at a much higher level.
“Love your body and it will love you right back”
I’d love to know how you feel about this. Do you compare yourself to others, do you try to copy what others eat? Has this helped you to understand that you’re on your own journey? Let me know in the comments below or via Facebook or email. Have a lovely day!